The life of modern man is such that there is always a place for stress, big or small, but there is. We try to cope with stress by patiently enduring it and, time after time, restraining ourselves from snapping. But at some point, the “cup overflows” and the floodgates open. What happens next? We become aggressive, jeopardizing loved ones, family relationships, the situation at work, etc. In such a situation, the ability to recognize the cause of aggression and curb it can come in handy. Have patience and wisdom and after some time you will learn to manage anger. What do you need to do?
Since ancient times I have heard about one truth: the best thing to do in a moment of resentment and anger is to walk away, leave the place where the irritant is. If it is a line in a store and people standing next to you irritate you with their talk and behavior, if you are a step away from making a remark to them, or even hitting them, leave your shopping and go outside! It’s better to calm down in the fresh air than to provoke a conflict with unpleasant consequences.
Look at it another way
The older we get, the more things that can annoy us about people. This is especially true when it comes to communication. And brightest of all it is noticeable in social networks – a favorite place of disputes and scandals. It is worth spending online even a few minutes and there may be a reason for anger and anger. We disagree with our point of view, make offensive remarks or ignore them, as a result we are out of our minds! What if we look at it differently? Either ignore the rudeness, or close the window of dialogue, or treat what is happening with humor. Sometimes it happens so that people, a few minutes ago ready to kill each other, part as good buddies. It’s worth a try!
Speak openly and now
Many of us like to put off what we can do now. Especially when it comes to a touchy subject or an unpleasant conversation. You don’t want to do that! And referring to Scarlet O’Hara and her method of solving any problem tomorrow is not necessary either, this approach is morally outdated. Speak openly and discuss any topic should be in the moment, without hiding your feelings and not shy away from them. Open dialog – a guarantee of the absence of rage.
Change a plus for a minus
Did someone or something piss you off? Are you furious? Try to turn that emotion into a positive. It sounds strange, but only at first glance. Anger and rage are given to us by nature and there is a reason for that – these emotions give us more strength! And when you feel that the aggression has reached its peak, you can switch to household chores – iron the laundry, paint a chair, dismantle the closet with things, fix the faucet, etc.